Making Love and Babies Ebook

Making Love and Babies

Some years ago I started asking infertile couples how often they made love. I was surprised at first and then alarmed to discover that more than half of the couples rarely had sex. Many of them only had sex once a month to try and coincide with the timing of her ovulation.

Making Love and Babies is a book which will help all couples whose sexual relationship is a chore rather than a vital, loving experience. It will help relationships and self esteem as well as helping those who wish to conceive.

Synopsis: Making Love and Babies by Dr Judy Ford

Sex is a basic and pleasurable activity that naturally leads to conception. Why is it then that infertile couples have infrequent sex when they desperately want to conceive their own child?

Making Love and Babies explores the history of declining fertility: the pill, abortions, changes in lifestyle and changes in the nature of relationships. It explains why many couples now have infrequent sex and it offers them practical solutions.

• Sex usually declines with age and the length of the relationship. When couples delay having children the sexual fire has often reduced to a simmer.
• Our brain areas for attraction, lust and attachment are in separate compartments. Lust can be reawakened with exercises for whole body sensuality.
• Trust underlies the ability to let go and be truly sexual. Issues leading to loss of trust must be addressed.
  Comfort foods decrease libido. Couples can eat their way to sex or sleep.
• Busy lifestyles often compete with sex. It is exciting to find unconventional times for intimacy that enhance and rekindle sexuality.
• Pleasurable sex leads to greater desire. Women can discover more about themselves and learn to experience more pleasurable female orgasms.
• Sex, like all athletic activities, improves with coaching. Men can develop much greater sexual prowess by doing some simple training exercises. They enjoy sex more and excite their partner to greater heights of passion.
• Research suggests that the timing of his and her orgasm might have a critical impact on the chances of conception. Modern sexual practices may inadvertently reduce the chances of conception. It is easy to learn how to avoid this trap.

Making Love and Babies is full of great advice for couples wishing to conceive and for all couples who just want to improve their relationships, understand each other better, reduce stress, enjoy more great sex.

Contents
Introduction
1 SEX AND FERTILITY
Frequency of sex in Infertile Couples
Why so little sex?
Summary: Sex and Fertility

2 FEMALE BODY RHYTHMS AND SEXUALITY
Normal female cycles
How does a normal cycle translate to female sexuality?
What are the basics for a regular cycle?
Is it a good idea to time ovulation and sex?
Having intercourse at the right time
Summary: Female body rhythms and sexuality

3 FREQUENCY OF SEX: AGE AND LENGTH OF RELATIONSHIP
Sex in young married couples
Age and duration of relationship on the frequency of sex
Sex around the World
3.1 Sex and Age of Woman
3.2 Sex and Years of Relationship
Age related decrease in Libido
3.3 Salivary Testosterone in Men of different Ages
Libido is dropping: what can be done?
Summary: Frequency of sex: age and length of relationship

4 FEMALE LIBIDO - PHYSICAL ISSUES
What to believe?
"Thinking of England"
How to increase lubrication when desire is present
Commercial vaginal lubricants kill sperm
Foods and Sexual Arousal
Lack of Desire
Summary: Female libido

5 FEMALE LIBIDO, RELATIONSHIPS & MOTHERHOOD
Couples as a Team
Men and Women: Domestic Roles
Motherhood as a role for Women defined by Men
Hothouse Mothering
Conflict: The Virtues of Motherhood
The Conflict of Motherhood and Sexuality
Motherhood and Domestic Roles
Choosing whether or not to be a full-time Mother
Choosing to be Sexual
Summary: Female libido, relationships and motherhood

6 FEMALE LIBIDO AND TRUST
Infertility and lack of Trust
What is control?
For the person who is emotionally stuck
Letting Go of your Inhibitions
Summary: Female libido and trust

7 SYNCHRONISING LOVE AND LUST
Brain areas of love, lust and attachment
Synchronous Love and Lust
Unfulfilled lust in adolescence
Finding lost Lust: Awakening whole Body Sensuality
Summary: Synchronising love and lust

8 STRESS, FATIGUE, SEXUALITY & FERTILITY
8.1 Common symptoms experienced by couples with fertility problems
Stress
How does stress affect fertility?
Secondary effects of stress on libido and sexuality
Effects of Stress on Embryo Implantation
Reducing the side effects of Stress
Summary: Stress, fatigue, sexuality and fertility

9 FEMALE ORGASM, SEXUAL POSITIONS, SENSUALITY AND FERTILITY
Female Orgasms
G-Spot Stimulation
Variation in Orgasmic Feelings
The importance of feeling comfortable
Do female orgasms help conception?
Alkaline, ripe, cervical mucus
The Timing of His and Her Orgasms
Sexual timing and technique
Using all your Senses for Arousal and Fun
Summary: Female Orgasm, Sexual Positions & Fertility

10 MALE ORGASM AND SEXUAL TECHNIQUE
The Penis: Size and Shape
The Male Intercourse Experience
Controlling the Time to Ejaculation
After his Ejaculation
Frequency of Ejaculation and Sperm Count
Summary: Male Orgasm and Male Sexual Technique

11 FINDING TIME FOR FREQUENT SEX
Why does the Frequency of Sex reduce?
Eliminating Time Wasters
Cutting back the Hours at Work
Managing Shift Work
Finding Time together when Schedules don't align
Eliminate Conventional Thinking
Excitement and Risk
Summary: Finding Time for Frequent Sex

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